What Should Dad Do During Labor and Delivery? How to Be the Support She Actually Needs

So, you’re about to become a dad—or a partner in the delivery room—and you’re wondering, “What should I actually be doing during labor and delivery?”
You’re not alone.

Most partners want to help. They want to be useful. But the truth is, without some real preparation, many find themselves standing on the sidelines, unsure of what to say or do when things get intense.

The good news? You don’t have to stay in the dark.

Here’s what your role really looks like during labor:

Be the Calm in the Chaos

Labor can be unpredictable and emotionally charged. Your calm presence is everything. Whether it’s offering a steady hand, helping with breathing, or just being fully present—your energy can anchor her when she needs it most.

Know the Stages of Labor

Understanding what’s happening—early labor vs. active labor vs. transition—helps you anticipate her needs. You’ll know when to encourage movement, when to help her rest, and when to advocate for more support.

Be Her Advocate

You’re not just there for emotional support—you’re also her voice if she’s too focused or fatigued to speak up. That means knowing her birth preferences and being ready to help communicate them clearly to the care team.

Offer Physical Comfort

Massage. Counterpressure. Rebozo work. These aren’t just nice extras—they can make a huge difference in how she copes with contractions. But they take practice to do well.

Support Doesn’t Stop at Birth

After baby arrives, emotions and exhaustion peak. Your support continues as she recovers, learns to feed, and adjusts to this major life transition. The more prepared you are, the stronger your bond will be.

So… how do you actually learn all of this?

You could try to figure it out from books or YouTube.
Or—you could get hands-on training that shows you exactly what to do, when to do it, and how to stay grounded through it all.

That’s what my Partner Prep Class is all about.

This 2-hour, in-person workshop in Pearland, TX teaches you the real tools, mindset, and moves that make a difference—built around my proven P.A.R.T.N.E.R. Method™.

June 7, 2025 | 11 AM – 1 PM
📍 Pearland, TX

Whether you’re nervous, excited, or somewhere in between—this class will help you show up with clarity, confidence, and connection when it matters most.

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Because when she says, “I couldn’t have done it without you,”
she’ll mean it—and you’ll know exactly why.